What is a Bully?

This was the question D asked me recently.  How amazing and wonderful that a 6 year old doesn’t know what a bully is!  There have been dozens of questions from D as to why people bully, whether that boy” is a bully; what she would say to a bully etc etc.  This is all stemming from some bullies depicted in My Little Pony.  It has been explored further with the girls watching the bullying in ‘Alvin and the Chipmunks: the Squeakuel’.  Honestly, that movie would put anyone off the idea of going to school: the bullying was so horrendous but told in a ‘this is what a normal American high school is like’ kind of way.  Nice.  D got quite anxious about it and told me that that was why she didn’t want to go to school.

I really feel for those children who have to suffer being bullied daily and it has made me realise how much value I place on mental health.  I realise now that I have (unconsciously!) placed the sausages’ mental health over and above anything else that might be going on in our HE world.  I have also realised that it really is the foundation for everything in life: learning, fun, friendships, responsibilities, relationships, jobs and careers, finance, parenting… EVERYTHING!

I am sure the sausages will be bullied at some point in their lives but I hope that when it does happen they will have enough self-confidence, awareness and resilience to deal with it.

In other news, we’ve been dipping our toes into all sorts this week…

D has been playing on her maths app – at one point it took all three of us to figure out a number line question which resulted in much hilarity.  All  of us have also been teaming up to help and motivate M through the levels of Super Mario Bros: she’s been getting quite down-hearted because she’s been stuck on a particular level for days.  She’s the most skilled of all of us so unfortunately we’re not a lot of help but I think she appreciates the support.

We had a look through some hang-gliding videos after seeing it in action on ‘Alvin & the Chipmunks: Chipwrecked’.  (I never thought I would stomach watching chipmunk films, it’s amazing how low your tolerance goes as a parent).  We also watched this amazing sky diving video and a whole host of others – D is very keen to have a go!

There’s also been a lot of dancing and singing off the back of the Chipmunk films.  I introduced them to Strictly Come Dancing the other night and they were both intrigued by the different dances and the scoring system.  I’ve noticed both sausages incorporating a bit of Charleston into their dance routines since then. 🙂

M is still working on her wooden house in Minecraft.  It’s all the more impressive that she’s gathered so much wood and stone herself to make it.  She was also inspired to create a scaffolding after seeing one in use at a local building site.

We also chatted about how babies grow in the uterus after our free ‘Nine months that made you‘ poster arrived the other day.  The girls had totally forgotten that they are IVF babies so I reminded them about how they were made and how D was frozen (!) as a blastocyst.

We’ve also had a great afternoon out at the common with friends…

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It was not enjoyed so much by D as she managed to fall head first into the lake, but she coped admirably well!

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Later, she found a stick and pretended to be Taurus the bull…

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And M scampered up a tree like the monkey she is…

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The end of the week is always finished off by playing with friends at Curious Minds.  I love that they all make their own fun: sometimes playing in a crowd, sometimes playing with parents and sometimes on their own.  It’s a lovely, friendly, supportive atmosphere.

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5 thoughts on “What is a Bully?

  1. Head first! Wow that’s impressive. My son managed to fall into the river chest deep, but then that was a freezing December day so perhaps it’s similar! I do love the Common. So beautiful this time of year too.

    My kids watched the first Chipmunk film a few years back in the back of the car while I was driving. After hearing their hysterical laughter for 90 minutes I had to find out what the fuss was all about. I’ve been hooked on chipmunks ever since. 🙂

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    1. Ha ha! Yep, the chipmunk films really aren’t so bad once you get used to them. We’re absolutely loving the common at the moment – we’ve never been frequent visitors before but now we look forward to it every week.

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  2. great post. I often think about this and how bullying is so avoidable and unnecessary. My daughter watches a lot of Thomas the tank engine, and the trains seem really mean to each other sometimes! I don’t think that’s the natural state of our kids. I really hope one day people begin to realise that the school culture is a major factor in creating bullies, and there are more peaceful ways to educate. thanks for sharing 🙂

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    1. I agree. I had forgotten that about Thomas the Tank. Thank goodness My Little Pony shows a healthy way of dealing with bullying and standing up for yourself – D has learnt a lot from that show! As for school culture, I can see that learning socialisation from your peers in a school setting is never going to go well if there aren’t enough adults around to guide the children through tricky situations.

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  3. yes, it’s sad that people just don’t realise that kids need much more adult support to deal with their feelings so they don’t take them out on each other. My Little Pony sounds great, we’ll check it out!

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