Love Bombing sounds a bit like some sort of porn but it isn’t, honest. It’s the title of a book written by Oliver James that I read recently. The basic premise of Love Bombing is that for a day or two (or longer if you wish) you hand over control to your child and you shower them with attention. This enables you to reconnect with each other, which is often difficult to do in our busy family lives. No one else joins in – no partners, no siblings. Just you and one child. Your child has complete control over what you do/where you go during this time. After reading the book, implementing Love Bombing plus daily half hour top ups pretty much sorts out most behavioural problems occurring!
So I explained all this to M and her little face lit up :). I stipulated she could have a day with me (some do an overnight too but there’s no way our budget will stretch to that at the moment) and she could choose what she wanted to do, as long as it didn’t cost too much. After thinking about it for a few days she decided she wanted to go foraging for berries! So this Saturday we went to Morden Park! D was a little wobbly at the thought of both of us going out without her but she rallied at the thought of having her own special day another time, and at spending the day with J.
We spent two hours walking around Morden Park, picking haw berries, elder berries, blackberries and rosehips. M adored every minute! She became very good at berry spotting too. She chose to have two doughnuts from a bakery for lunch and then believe it or not, we were too tired to forage anymore. M tentatively asked if we could go to a toy shop so we headed back to Wimbledon but then M decided she’d rather play Minecraft for an hour so I sat beside her with a cup of tea while she played.
After that we both felt refreshed enough to head out again (M gorgeously bursting with joy at the prospect of sitting on the front seat in the top deck of the bus!) and we spent a long time window shopping in Ely’s jewellery department before heading up to the toys. She obviously didn’t intend for me to buy her anything but I thought I would as it had been such a cheap day out!
On our way back to the bus stop we spotted the library and M asked if we could go in and choose some more books for her reading challenge… eh?! So we made a quick dash in there to grab two books before it closed.
M was so full of joy all day that I felt quite emotional at times – it was so lovely to have her all to myself.
A glorious day!